When you experience something in life that you don’t have the language for, you literally can’t talk about it.
So the experience remains a secret.
Shame thrives in secret keeping.
Secrets are powerful because they can control you.
Almost always the problem with a secret is not the content of the secret itself.
But what you must do to keep the secret information out of sight.
Can you succeed to drink away, exercise away, eat away, work away, or by any other effort rationalize away the power of the secret?