Choice. Pain refuses choice. It says you can’t avoid me. You can’t control me. You can deny me. I’m still here. You can (more…)

Now is the time. Put the cause of your pain in its proper perspective. To rationalize hurtful behaviors. To say you aren’t angry, (more…)

While you need to own your fears, sadness, hurt, and anger. You don’t have to do it all today. Yes if you don’t (more…)

Guilt is a natural response to a mistake. Shame isn’t. Guilt says you’ve made a mistake. Shame says you’re a mistake. Shame tells (more…)

It’s easy to continue to minimize, discount and rationalize a loss. But left unexamined and without appropriate avenues for expression. These feelings of (more…)

The past. If recalling something from the past feels like you have to “drag it up,” there is almost always unresolved pain attached (more…)

Let go of the pain. It doesn’t mean you will, or should, forget your suffering. That would be another kind of denial. It (more…)

Change course. Your response to pain is a choice. How you choose to respond. Can change the course of your life. To change (more…)

There is no amount you must suffer. In order to have permission to heal. If you have pain, you deserve to heal. If (more…)

You should never hate yourself. For hating others who do terrible things. The depth of your love is shown by the extent of (more…)