To heal it’s more than what you think, it’s difficult.
The work can take a lot of energy. If you could have solved these problems easily, I’m sure you would have done it already.
And to make matters even trickier, problems with feelings often include a layer of guilt or shame. Unlike most other medical problems, when it comes to mental health, people are often worried that they will be judged for their struggle.
In fact, they often judge themselves first.
The problem with assigning blame to self or others, engaging in reason-giving, and giving up hope is that there isn’t much room for progress.
So, if you realize there are problems as you do this work, that’s a good thing.
Be open to whatever is there to see.
If there are some things that are working well, that’s great to know. If there are some things that are not working well, then it gives you a place to start.
Don’t you want to receive options for action that might not have been there before?