Perfect and bulletproof are seductive.
But they don’t exist.
There’s a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.
– Leonard Cohen’s song Anthem
Perfectionism kills. Why?
- Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval. It says you’re what you do and how well you do it.
- Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? It’s a hustle. It’s exhausting because hustling is exhausting. It’s a never-ending performance. It says please do perfectly.
- Perfectionism is not the key to success. In fact, research shows that perfectionism hampers achievement. Perfectionism is correlated with depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis or missed opportunities.
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The fear of failing, making mistakes, not meeting people’s expectations, and being criticized keeps us outside of the arena where healthy competition and striving unfolds.
Dare greatly and walk into the arena.
- Have courage and the willingness to engage.
- Don’t sit on the sidelines and hurl judgments and advice.
- Dare to show up.
Let yourself be seen. This is the vulnerability.
To be vulnerable is not knowing victory or defeat.
- It’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging.
- It’s being all in.
- It’s daring greatly.