Pain is inevitable in life; suffering is not.
To feel sad or a thought of “I’m bad” can not by themselves hurt you.
Unnecessary suffering comes from trying to end, control, and suppress thoughts, feelings, and memories.
To try to get rid of, escape from, suppress, or avoid any reminders of your trauma or other painful life experiences.
Does it help?
Are you not tired of the pain you are experiencing, which may be present in the form of depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, feeling numb, excessive alcohol use, or pushing others away?