Stop focusing on undesired aspects of your life.
Are you not often scared and angry when you focus on undesired aspects of yourself and your life?
Is this not the reason you feel helpless and frustrated by your inability to control things?
Is this not the reason you cling to a narrow vision of how things should be?
You are not the only one who is being dumped, proven wrong, or made a fool of.
Wrong choices and feelings of regret are inevitable, no matter how high and mighty one is.