I hate to be vulnerable.
I keep asking myself. Why do I keep telling people?
- I’m strong when I’m weak.
- I’m capable when I’m not.
- I’m healing when I’m sick.
Why can’t I just be vulnerable?
I guess I’m afraid same as everyone else if I take off the mask. The real me will be too disappointing.
I should just show people what they want to see.
But does it help when we hide who we’re and how we feel?
I yearn for connections, to feel and to be vulnerable.
- Yes, I’m totally exposed when I’m vulnerable.
- Yes, I’m in the torture chamber that I call uncertainty.
- And, yes, I’m taking a huge emotional risk when I allow myself to be vulnerable.
But what else can I do?
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity.
It’s the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.
If I want greater clarity in my purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual life, vulnerability is the path.
To be Vulnerable is not a Weakness
According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary.
- The word vulnerability is derived from the Latin word vulnerare, meaning “to wound.”
- The definition includes “capable of being wounded” and “open to attack or damage.”
- Merriam-Webster defines weakness as the inability to withstand an attack or wounding.
Weakness often originates from a lack of vulnerability—when I don’t acknowledge how and where I’m tender; I’m more at risk of being hurt.
Invulnerability cost more
From the field of social psychology, influence-and-persuasion researchers.
Who looks at how people are affected by advertising and marketing. They conducted a series of studies on vulnerability.
- They found that the participants who thought they were not susceptible or vulnerable to deceptive advertising were, in fact, the most vulnerable.
- The researchers’ explanation for this phenomenon says it all: “Far from being an effective shield, the illusion of invulnerability undermines the very response that would have supplied genuine protection.”
- Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you. If that’s the case.
Why is it so damn hard to be vulnerable?